We have no doubt that children steal because of unwillingness to show themselves and respectively to be apprehended as good, happy, responsible people, and theft is that easy way, by means of which they keep a position, safe for them, bad and irresponsible.Almost everything from this that is stolen by children, they can receive in other ways, which, however, assume honesty and, perhaps, skill and by that characterize them as answering for themselves.Theft, on the contrary proves that they bad for this reason they make thefts.
This child your own inner self.And now wonder, whether you gave to this child as much of time, cares and attention, how many gave to other people of whom you care?It does not seem whether to you that in some sense you are similar to the stepmother from the fairy tale: after all you treat your internal child as with the Cinderella, and prefer to him other people in the same way how the stepmother preferred it stepsisters?Make the decision now: than you had to be engaged in life, you will care of your own inner self.
He grabbed again the vekderko and ran to the yard.Went that beyond jokes!The sun right there hid, became cold, children ran up at once.To Prishlos and Kostya again home to go.Came, sat down on a window sill and looks out of the window on the yard.And there fine weather!Kostya nearly began to cry for offense!Mother, well why from me the sun hides?it sproksit.And you as think?What it was not pleasant to it?
Sara turned to me and whether I took an interest, become angry about her.I did not become angry about Sara, but was revolted with her act.I repeated that tools here in order that they with mother could express the feelings.If we become angry about it, we can show it by means of music, but not a manhandling.We finished occupation, having silently said goodbye with each other.After that occupations I had to understand already the feelings.I felt guilty that did not prevent such situation.
And, if you rekshit to regale on a pie or rolls, it will be better if you prepare them from natural products and together with the kid.The fairy tale about the country of sweet rolls Marina Mosina Once the grandmother brought to Vasya two big sweet rolls with poppy.Vasya ate one and began to ask the second.And mother speaks: Will be enough.You ate one, it is impossible more eat too much.
Such freedom allows nablyu to the giver to see understanding limits for each age.On the business quite so we came to understanding that children eightnine years can understand operations with the square root which they saw how children dvenadtsacarry out tifourteen years.In the same way we noticed that eightyearold children can be interested in algebra.Development the child depends not only on his age, but also from vozmozh to Nosta to observe the world surrounding it.Our schools are full of life.
The differentiating line between these two perio reminds the lady Leta's waters the rivers of oblivion in Greek mythologies.It is very difficult for us to remember something from this that happened to us till three years.And it is even more difficult till two years.Psychoanalysts all means try to extend the old memoirs, but usually to anybody not in power to remember that was till third year of life.Whether it is possible to imagine more dramatic situation: about time the formation from nothing that can tell even, to whom it happened?
I am not the cone, and Toptyzhk's bear cub, told Top tyzhka.Dusya departed further meanwhile and sees there is a chanterelle.Dusya began to be teased again: Chanterelle match, chanterelle match!And any I am not a match, the fox told.I am chanterelle Verochka, the beautiful girl!So forty all day flew on the wood and teased all animals.It became offensive for animals, they gathered and decided that will not talk to the soroky.After all they have names, and it is teased.
Not without reason in pedagogics there is a concept the favorable speech environment that is Wednesday which positively influences development of the child, in particular development of his speech.Unfortunately, on consultation some parents try to find out from the expert, passing on raised tone who is more guilty that their child stammers.Often it occurs in the presence of the child.It is impossible to tell that discussions of this sort favorably affect a state not only the speech, but also all nervous system of the child.
Ask the child to correct your errors: I go on water.The hare sleeps over snow.Flowers stand on a vase.The boy went beyond houses.The rain goes under the wood.Fishes float to the river.The girl ate two plates of porridge.In shop sell many bread.At cats fluffy moustaches.Chicken calls the tsyplyat.One is a lot of.Let's the child consider pictures and ask to finish speaking the offer, using plural.For example: I have an apple, and on a tree.
We will call this list list of events of life of the child.Spend for this some time, thinking over each point of the list on to measure of how move ahead.Perhaps, some points have the obvious consequences only for your child and, thus, belong to the list events of his life; others are closely connected only with your own life and, therefore, do not treat this list.But there are also such points, which you should break into subparagraphs to define, what of them influences you, and what no.If you cannot solve in any way, whether this point belongs to the list events of life of the child, wonder, whether you have the real power over this situation or not.
I tried to make so that in a situation where nothing threatens it, reactions of its steel positive and found sense.This technique is aimed at forming of all possible relationship between me and the child, between the child and sounds, between sounds of musical instruments and his own voice.I hoped through musical experience to deepen and connect his acoustical, visual and tactile perception, and also motive control and ability to master space to communication.Such experience is aimed at activization of many mental and cognitive processes and, whenever possible, satisfaction of some emotional requirements.
Give more scope and independence and if do not give, he / she all the same slowly prevail.From the beginning of school years parental approach to a safety issue of the child has to become a bit different taking into account those changes which happen around and in it.Therefore we constructed the book as open the reference book from any question which now excites you.The book is arranged so that to give you ideas, keys, codes and can be, even master keys to the solution of many problems, even such difficult, as thirst for risk, attacks in a school toilet, drugs, sexual harassments.
If your child does not make anything similar, hold yours word.Refrain from doing something for your child, so far you actually will not feel that want it.Sometimes parents do not decide to strike in such here way, because, caring of several people, they feel: having stopped doing something for one person, they at the same time deprive of the care as well others.Please, disagree to be reconciled with the unfair address because of this circumstance.Poraskinte mind to think up such way strikes which will be fair and for other family members if, of course, it will not complicate you.
The child has to find a place where the shade changes too sharply.These exercises show the high requirements in particular to ability to remember and distinguish.They are carried out as game between two partners and group games; work with plates of several flowers; work with plates of all flowers; to order among themselves color ranks; to arrange plates in a color row on a vertical or on a diagonal; to put a spiral, since all lightest plates and continuing by plates of the following on intensity of a shade.
Let they will draw the dial, or distribute their ready.Further each child receives a mysterious note with the specified figure designating time of the made appointment.All sort notes and run up with them on the room if it is more than children, the same time can be specified by several of them.Later some minutes, the tutor reincarnates in the Keeper of time and reports, which now hour.And children respond and run out by the o'clock showing their time.The meeting can please and a question, and it is simple attention of the adult, and something tasty.
And then?Then grew up, the company good appeared, and somehow all passed.Appendicitis?The most ridiculous that in the fourth class really it was necessary to do operation: as predicted.In effect, each of us, having looked back on the past, can remember something similar some moment when he felt absolutely defenseless, lonely, thrown small being.And let this abandonment actually existed only in our imagination from it it was not easier.Because it is important to each child to feel parental love.
The situation to me was described by the grandmother.It is possible to state the incident literally in three words: the girl was exposed from the house.Her parents divorced a few years ago divorced scandalously; and all these years continue war.Each of them found the new happiness.The father married, his wife has own daughter, the coeval of my patient, they live three together.Mother married; the girl lived with her until recently: there was a summary brother half a year ago it would seem, well.
Animals.The young frog jumps: prygprygpryg we jump forward, And the elephant calf stamps: the top top top is stamped the foot, And the leveret jumps: skokskokskok we jump up, The chicken cackles: tototo we wave hands, The uzhonok creeps: shukhshukhshukh we slide on a floor as on skis, Also the ezhonok hurries: fukhfukhfukh we turn a trunk serially to the right and to the left.Here komarik departed we wave hands, We squat a blade of villages, Put wings we clasp ourselves hands, Lowered a head low we hang the head.
I want my sweater drew Annie.And it went back to the room where they always watched TV.Annie did not manage to spread out the game riddle to two parts as the room was entered by her favourite dog Chernysh.From all everyday pleasures Chernysh most of all loved three things: to run for apporty, to go for a walk and to chew fabrics and slices of game riddle.He entered the room very silently so that Annie did not hear.Through some time his moist nose started pofyrkivat about a table where separate parts from which game was formed lay.
Etc.Yathoughts cannot break through through this barrier in initial original form; they make the way through it only in weakened, the distorted look.They will be transformed to questions, in you we or in impersonal statements, in denials.So, if you go with the friend by the car and the thought comes to your mind: I I want sandwich, that, most likely, it will encounter an obstacle If I will introduce this idea, it will sound or is impolite, or is selfish also it will be expressed as follows: Why don't we stop and not to have a bite?
Not in words, and in practice, in support, in understanding, in participation, that the confidence is: how adults were occupied, they always always!will find for me time.Also will be able to be discharged of the very important, very adult affairs both will not reproach, and will not begin to look for hundred one explanations how they are occupied, and will not go on wait.When I need very much them.And how to understand, what the child needs, what now, here now it is difficult for it to do without you?
It on kazyvat as the nature starts character formation.And its method consists in providing to the child a wasp by opportunities for manifestation of interest, exclusive the interest directed on performance of creative work personality, necessary for development of all parties.Concentration is followed by persistence.It is one more devil character which was come by turn to reveal.In fact, I already said about how children repeat exercises, which not have the shown external purpose, therefore, certainly, dolzh ny to aim the internal.
Music can get into his soul, affect his mood and behavior, to anything else such is not subject.Knowing it, I very much wanted to participate in occupations of musical therapy together with it.These occupations gave the chance, and it was impossible to miss it, to take part in disclosure of the personality Mathew and to establish with it unique relationship.For Mathew it is the only opportunity for the whole week to stay hour with me alone, doing together something very important for both of us.
Transition from one state to another always a soprovozhda it etsyatsya by work which hands do with concrete things, the work demanding concentration of consciousness.To this psychological event which reminds treatment of adults psychoanalysis, we gave special a nazv scientific research institute normalization.Today, after so many years and receiving so extensive experience, this truth already became conventional.In children's advisory clinics, which large number it was open for work with difficult children, becomes as See.
Timid children often belittle the qualities therefore they need to be helped with recognition of the advantages.It is useful to make, for example, the list of their merits and abilities.The praise is extremely important.Proving to the child that you about him high opinion, you will help it to have a high opinion on yourself also.In society timid children often avoid contact with others.They constantly feel some concern and consider themselves is worse than other children.They often fluctuate in decisionmaking, do not show an initiative, do not claim and do not protect themselves.
Though subsequently, up to prior to the beginning of the eleventh class, the son nevertheless gave some trouble mothers, problems gradually disappeared, and to a spring semester of Carle any more not lagged behind on one of subjects, caused nobody troubles in to school, anywhere still.It and his mother were in fine, the relations which were full of love.The happy termination of history is right?Incorrectly.Approximately in the same time elder sister Carla Sallie, which only that was executed years, started behaving absolutely differently, not as usually.
Moreover, all of them were emotionally unripe and had no feeling of identity.But they could understand and use the speech and behaved in the social plan is acceptable.Kevin Eightyearold Kevin, younger of boys, by sight was most autichny of all three.Besides he was the most unripe of them and owned tremendous, faultless system of manipulations which applied as protection at any danger.He easily could come off clear this beautiful fairhaired pinkchecked boy with big blue eyes.
It was really very unusual.Within several days she simply could not wait for the first visit to it.It seemed that in it something somersaulted and jumped when she thought of it.She could not remain sitting on a place.In that morning she woke up before usual and literally did not look away of hours, trying to convince shooters to move quicker to approach father's arrival.And here it came, at last!Mother handed it a small bag which Annie usually took with herself for the weekend.
Usually the child with autism holds hands oddly, straining a palm and curving fingers back, and touches other hand only the middle of a palm or is active a hand as claw, taking fingers of the therapist and looking thus aside.Full contact is come only when palms of the child and the therapist entirely adjoin to each other.Sometimes it is reached not soon.Direct physical communication can be used, moving together under music, thus the therapist holds the child by a hand.It presses on the child's brush all fingers or only a thumb or a wrist.
to do the most valuable most, to get sensual experience.It is not enough to tell how it is necessary to handle, for example, matches.Algorithm of your actions: to tell to tell, acquaint, explain; to show; to allow the child to try to make it most; and then to explain/show younger to the little sister brother; to repeat.Useful skill is so developed.When tried when did itself under your control will not become puzzled.Forbidden fruit is sweetest therefore do not forbid, and train and explain.
Similar about at once and human life serves a definite purpose.Not rather constantly to aspire to higher levels spiritual refinement and internal beauty.Naturally, the person can and always has to aspire to higher roppyam physical and spiritual perfection, but it I and.would be empty and useless, if his desires ' Numbers also came to an end with II.And really, what advantage them from his brain and muscles?In the world there is nothing that Hi would be included in structure of the Universe, and if we II shelepa spiritual riches, sense of beauty and High morals, it not for itself, and in order that these ra were used for the general benefit and occupied the Mei go in the general structure of spiritual life.
Mother nodded.What for?Annie asked.Why it does it?Probably, therefore mother answered that the rage wants that it was noticed.And sometimes because wants to tell something to you.And whether the rage can hurt somebody?Annie asked.no mother answered.Rage it only feeling, a state.It something like steam.If it collects too much, it needs an exit.In the same way, as, say, steam needs to come to light when water in a teapot begins to boil.
After you solved what exactly you want to make, arrange again to yourself a confrontation with the child and this time address to him or to it with the statement consisting of two following parts.At first in the first part of the statement tell him or her that you want.Then in the second part of the statement tell the child, what exactly you will make if do not receive wished to a certain term.Alice, I want that I with you had equal relationship, in which each of us would make the contribution.
When I wrote this book, before my eyes there were faces of children with which I had to work, and of course, their parents.Without the aid of parents, without their belief in children and beliefs in us, experts, without their sincere desire to help kids, without their participation, it would hardly be succeeded to achieve positive results.When I remember the patients, and many of them already became parents, I take pride for them.I am grateful to the destiny which presented me such remarkable work which helps people to become happier.
It cannot be reached in haste, having by the way stated to the child some persistent requirements, and then again having passed to former ways of communication.It more likely slow, thoughtful and the permanent stepbystep job going from one stage to another only she can also lead to the real result.See your list of events of life of the parent and select in it item approximately average for you difficulty degree.In the course of this work we we are going to carry out you through a series of the steps accruing on complexity.
And mother told: I do not want to go to shop to buy products, clothes and toys any more!She laid down on a sofa and began to read the thick book.And the father told: I do not want to go to work any more!It placed chess on a board and began infinite party with itselfhimself.And among all this disgrace happy Kakprizka sat, admiring that she did.And the Katyusha of a podokshl to a mirror also looked at itself.She did not see radiant a peephole they went out and got gray krukga.
She has the right for existence even if the person and is mistaken.Is mistaken?Means, there is an occasion to return to this subject, and not once.it is correctly to orient your business.Children often hesitate to tell parents about school and okoloshkolny troubles it is simple because are afraid that will silly look that them will condemn, will count small and weak and after all the school student very much should feel that parents consider him big.Tell about yourself, about the relatives: that happened to you in the childhood, to what dangerous situations you got that you then rescued.
Now, to move ahead further, it is necessary to connect training.Training is not only education, it is connected with development of the child in general.This development of selfknowledge and understanding of the place in environment.Now the child needs to monitor the behavior and to find feeling of real identity.Its musical development depends on how he realizes the maintenance of music and as follows it.When he listens to sounds, he needs to help to realize concrete familiar musical drawings, for example scales, a row from five notes, a timbre or voices of different tools or rhythmic drawing.
The flop of the adult and kid, emergence of an outline of the traces which are lagging behind and ahead of each other is forming of prospect of future growth.Coastal circulation from a trace in a trace, looking at drawing pyatochek gives the chance to see, what it, an Achilles' heel of the childhood that rough line that stores a print of future of the child.At games at an okoyem of the sea cases when the threefouryearold kid with the head plunges into works on the first transfer of weight, the first prokapyvaniye and recognition of depth, the first arrival to internal underground waters are known … To the first understanding that water is sideways, from above, but also from below … Often at this age of the kid bring home roasted from a back and absolutely white, it is defenseless white, from a tummy.
That terribly got a fright, but, fortunately, quickly thought that this woman was the wicked witch whom people caught long ago and could not catch in any way.The girl understood also that next time when she crosses the road, it should be more careful, but all the same considered that she did not deserve that so shouted at it.The girl began to watch the witch and when that again marked it, she helped people to seize her.So little girl became famous.All terribly wanted to see the girl who caught the witch.
Therefore at me a lot of time for bringing an order on a desk always left.Sometimes I even itself did not know why I so carefully tidied up the desk.Simply I am sure that to me it will be very nasty if I do not make it.And you know, what I will tell you?Many children feel the same and arrive the same as you told krestnaya.Really?Annie was surprised.The godmother looked at the interlocutor: I think, your life would be where is more cheerful if you so did not worry about the desk.
After all in a bubble he did not want any more!The fairy tale about the Hare squabbler Irina Gurina Once the surprising dream dreamed the Hare.He saw the native wood, familiar animals and birds.Only one was surprising all of them were afraid of it.Look, the fox speaks.There is a great Hare.He won against me yesterday, and now I have to bring every day to him for breakfast cabbage.
In most cases these compulsive and perfektsionistsky tendencies remain at the operated level, i.e.at the level which is giving in to correction.They do not subordinate to themselves all our life.But some people appear in captivity of the compulsive behavior.It directs their life and influences their relationship.Their pefektsionistsky levels are often unattainable that usually causes feeling of rage, incompetence and bitterness from unfulfilled intentions and desires.
Then your pain will be switched off at once.Button red?Lyonka specifies.Red.Give press.And only Lyonka pressed a button as the knee ceased to hurt and a wound was stopped.Here Lyonka is more attentive at the aunty looked narrowly and asks: And you magician?Of course, the magician, she answers.The good fellow that recognized me.And that quickly found a button, too the good fellow.Lyonka was proud a bit and again asks: And from where I have a button?
Unfortunately, it was not succeeded to develop them further.Now present that the newborn grows in a family where mother or the father strongly stammers.He constantly hears the speech, characteristic for stutter, which constantly interrupts speech spasms, halts, delays, the speech in accelerated, not always the legible.In this case is very great the probability of that at the kid stutter will develop.But to claim that the child will stammer by all means, it is impossible: many examples when in a family where someone from parents stammers, the child speaks without any halts are known.
Watch closely growth of teeth: whether everything teeth were cut through, whether they are located on a maxillary arch, whether there are no excess teeth.The orthodontist will estimate a bite condition, the maxillofacial surgeon will define a condition of a bridle of language.Speech problems can be caused and a hearing disorder.Pay attention to behavior of the kid: whether it reacts to a sound, whether defines a sound source, whether speaks too loudly, whether asks again, whether does louder, than usually, a TV sound.
Hi, the Ladybug, what you do here?I want to get one birch above to see my maklenky daughter.It was lost, and I cannot find it in any way.And so it!cheerfully the grasshopper told, turning the back.Oh!mother the Ladybug was delighted and embraced the baby.Mother, the little Ladybug told, is a volkshebnik of Kuzya!Get acquainted!Thanks to you, wizard Kuzya, huge!mother the Ladybug poblagokdarit a grasshopper.And the grasshopper jumped further.
If we dealt with the threeyearold child, he itself could prompt to us.And we should have tracked, that it had no lack of flowers and beautiful things We would have to provide for it motivation the occupations corresponding to its stage of development.We it is easy we can find, what means we have to have a floor hand to allow it to train growing a way to Nosta.But if it is about the newborn, which , shimayetsya the adaptation, what environment we can prepare for it?
And though these sounds are not really beautiful, however they to liking to many children with autism.Other tools, for example a recorder, demand sophisticated equipment and accuracy as movements of fingers, and breath.Most of children with autism are capable to be engaged with a melodics if they have no incentive to undertake more difficult tool or for them is not enough for this volume of attention.It is necessary to avoid that the child had a feeling of a failure, failures that forces to give up occupations as it happened to Jeffrey who changed the guitar for a zither see page .
Thus, the general, final address to it is to itself such: I have to and nevertheless I cannot control the child!There is nothing surprising that you feel frustrated, ensnared also come to the conclusion: something not in order in you.When the parent acquires this mentality, he or she do absolutely not that parents of teenagers have to do.Though only the few from you were got pedagogical education, all of us learned to control behavior of our children for the sake of their own advantage Is not present, you cannot to go to the street with the tricycle.
Not so strong physical health, as earlier.But the school does not turn on this attention.There are rasp to Sanya, and, you want you do not want, children have to carry out it.They have to sit for hours not movably and listen, they have to be obedient and to spend a lot of time for material learning by heart.And a wreath of all school years is the university, a cat ry also not strongly differs from preceding it types of school education, except, perhaps, intensively work st.
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